Our tagline “Grab Life” speaks differently to all of us. For me (at this moment in time), it means making the most of opportunities and grabbing them with both hands. Feels great once you’ve done it but the process can be a little uncomfortable – especially if it involves exploring new ground.
When Andy suggested I travel back to Australia on my own to help facilitate the annual Bounce Australia Retreat, I was a mix of excited and terrified – excited at the prospect of challenging myself as a business woman, yet terrified at the thought of leaving our girls and taking a leadership role without Andy by my side.
By the way, I should be used to it by now… This is what Andy does. He throws me in the deep end. It’s never comfortable, but I have to admit I have him to thank for instigating many of the big leaps I’ve taken in my life.
At times, when an opportunity like this arises and I feel out of my depth (which happens quite a bit), I have a choice on my hands: Say “no” and stay with what I know or say “yes” to the unknown and new possibilities.
Here’s how it usually plays out for me – I find myself having sneaky little conversations with myself like, “This isn’t your thing” and “You don’t need to do it” – literally talking myself out of doing the thing I’m afraid of. Does this happen for you?
When I give in to these voices and take a step back, I literally feel myself shrink a little. I get smaller somehow, knowing that an opportunity’s been lost.
But when I push myself gently through my own resistance and manage to achieve something new, I feel myself expand, feeling more energised and alive. This feeling is what it’s all about for me.
So, I gently coerced myself to take the opportunity before me. I ventured off to Australia on my own for the Bounce Retreat without my co-pilot (although I did organise a life-size cardboard cut-out made of him so we could all have selfies with him). It wasn’t the same without him but it was great for me to step up as a leader and own my role in this whole thing.
A few years ago I came across this quote from author Anais Nin:
And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.
I liked it so much I had it tattooed on my torso.
Since I’ve branded myself in this way I’m constantly reminded to do more of the things that scare me. Letting go is far easier than holding on (don’t you think?). Even though it might not feel like it at the time.
Hope my words somehow speak to you and encourage you to step up whenever you find yourself faced with a new and scary opportunity.